S'ex for couples: How To Get The Best This Holiday

Couples should bear it in mind that having problems with s*xuality or er*ction does not mean that you or your partner is physiologically or psychologically abnormal in any way. A man shouldn’t allow his self-esteem and s*x-esteem to suffer. The moment this is allowed, the case becomes worse.

Rather, it is better to abstain from int*rcourse altogether for a period of time and married couples should instead engage more in cuddling and nons*xual touches. Gradually, over a period of weeks or months, depending on the couple, the partners would have worked toward a more relaxing atmosphere and then int*rcourse will naturally follow. This idea is to make s*x a less-threatening experience and to overcome the anxiety grip.
Couples can even add some spice to the love-making by going to a different setting. They can change the routine by trying out new positions. 

Stress arising either from performance anxiety or from other life situations can worsen s*xual disorder and erectile dysfunction. Regardless of the cause, it’s difficult to enjoy oneself when one has too much on his mind. Try relaxation exercises such as deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation, where you consciously tense and relax each part of the body in sequence.

Feel free to express your feelings. Marital difficulties are notorious contributors to s*xual problems. Anger, resentment and hurt feelings often spill into a couple’s s*x life, turning the bedroom into a battlefield. This situation is likely to develop if partners don’t communicate. Share your feelings with your spouse. This festive period is the best time to really relax because it is full of fun.

Use "I" statements, and keep the focus on your feelings, instead of your partner’s actions. Doing a thorough housecleaning of the relationship may very well clear the way for a healthier s*xual union instead of storing up emotional debris.

Don’t drink before s*x. Drinking alcohol or being drunk can significantly impair your s*xual functioning. Try once in a while to recapture your previous successful experiences. If performance anxiety has undermined your confidence, thinking about positive s*xual relationships or experiences you have had in the past may help boost your self-esteem. It may also convince you that you can have a fulfilling s*x life in the future. Involve your partner. Although er*ctile difficulties originate with the man while s*xual disorders originate both from man and woman, these challenges are a married couple’s problem and can be sorted out by the couple. 

If the problem is not medical, there are many home remedies strategies.

Have a positive mind-set. Just as you are so optimistic about every other life issue, believe that s*xual disorder and er*ctile dysfunction can be completely resolved. For many of these s*xual challenges, a few minutes visit to the hospital and basic medical routine check-up may detect some underlying causes. When they are treated, these ‘gigantic’ challenges easily become issues of the past.

Eating up to 100g on a regular basis of some of our common natural foods is highly beneficial in healing various forms of s*xual disorder especially in females and also increases libido and s*xual power in men. 

Some of the foods are Alfalfa sprouts, pistachios, almonds, dried dates, walnuts, local popcorn, quince seeds, salmon, garlic, wheat, black gram, honey, boiled egg, ginger, nuts and white onions. Some of them are well packaged in capsule forms and are available. If you need some of them, you can give me a call.

Natural therapies, like full body massages with olive oil to the base of the penis, lateral sides of the pubic area of the woman and hot baths done with coconut oil regularly are home remedies that have done wonders.

Besides this, couple can adopt cooling method remedy. This is best achieved during foreplay. When you caress your wife and she fondles your p*nis with good lubricant, soon you will notice that you will reach the point where you will be forced to tell her, "Wait…I am close to ej*culating, but I don’t want to ej*culate until I’m inside you. So stop fondling me for a few minutes, I need to cool." 

But during those minutes, you will continue to caress her, concentrate more on her oranges and down below [you can even suck them] while she lets go of your p*nis for few minutes until you say, "okay, fondle me again," and soon after that you will tell her, "wait … I need to cool again." 

Repeat this ‘fondle-cool’ many times. [That is before you enter her, she fondles your p*nis, but she doesn’t make you ej*culate.] Then you enter her. Because she fondled you before entry many times, this will help train you to the extent that when you eventually enter her, you will not ej*culate too soon. 

Do not worry if you have little success the first time you try the ‘fondle-cool home remedy. It may take weeks. Just remember, before you enter your wife, let her fondle your p*nis for a long time, but without making you ej*culate. After some weeks, you will find that this is helping you to slow down after you finally enter her. It will also help you to make her climax.

Another home remedy is the PC muscle exercise or Kegel exercise. This is helpful because it is very natural and can be done anywhere anytime and as many times as possible. Kegel exercise is all about squeezing the PC each time you pass urine. Why urine? Because the PC controls the bladder and the urethra of the man, it even spreads to the prostrate and the pelvic wall. All you need to do is make sure you drink a cup of water every hour. This helps you to visit the bathroom and as soon as you want to urinate, just make sure you are not bringing out the urine at once. Divide the urine into three and as soon as you push out the first part, stop and squeeze. Repeating this over and over strengthens the PC cord and invariably reduces the rush of the sperm leading to quick ejaculation during thrusting in and out.

The masters and Johnson squeeze remedy is also one of several techniques men can use to develop the ability to control ej*culation and exercise weak p*nis. Ask your wife to caress you to point of arousal. As soon as you get a full er*ction (not before orgasm – just when you get a full erection), she should stop and put her two index fingers under the base of the cap of your p*nis. The thumb must be placed over the frenulum, which is the elastic band of the p*nis; it connects the foreskin to the penis. 

She should then squeeze it hard for about four seconds (she needs to squeeze quite hard), you may even lose between 10 and 30 per cent of your er*ction because of the squeezing. This is completely normal. Your partner should wait for 15-30 seconds after releasing the squeeze before starting to stimulate your p*nis again. As soon as you re-gain a full er*ction, the squeeze technique can again be done. This pattern can be repeated 4-5 times in the first time. When you have done this a few times, it gradually firms the tissues of the p*nis. 

- and with all these you will get the best s*x ever this holiday period. Enjoy!

BY FUNMI AKINGBADE

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